The Journal

1. Rarely are things truly an emergency. Rarely do things need to be dealt with urgently. I let myself pause until I can respond rather react. The level of ease this helps me feel in my business is tremendous.

If you’re used to starting and stopping in your business and not sure how to get that consistent, sustainable income going; constantly feeling anxious and scanning for threats; dropping projects and going onto the next thing before you get the results you want...I invite you to try this instead.

What I've found in my 6+ years of full-time running my own business is that the way to getting better results in your business - aka more clients, more sales, more ease, more impact - is to stop only focusing on the results! Here’s is how.

Perfectionism dehumanizes us. It makes writing marketing emails exhausting, showing up on instagram terrifying, and designing our courses a mind fuck. Here are ways to disrupt perfectionism so that you can have the freedom to show up as yourself!

When we suppress our grief, our fear, our anger and disgust, we are also turning down the volume on our joy, our delight, our wonder and our ecstasy. One of my core principles that I will help students integrate in The Glimmer Mastermind is to feel the fullness of our humanity.

Because I choose to not wait to be perfect or to feel the best to go after my heart's desires. I don't let every emotion dictate my heart's work.

And you can decide to do the same.

Valentine’s Day can hold so many complex meanings and that’s why I want to share one of my most important practices with you:

Weeding out all the shoulds and looking for the permission slip you're needing.

Writing down my subconscious thoughts onto paper is choosing to travel down into the underworld. The underworld is our subconscious. Exploring the underworld is exploring our fears, expectations, deepest longings and hidden biases.

When they exist simply as shadows, they are terrifying. I avoid looking directly at them. But their shadows haunt me. Drain me like vampires.

It's normal to have moments of feeling like an imposter, of feeling disoriented, or like we know nothing, or have nothing to offer.

We are our own worst critics. We can be so freaking hard on ourselves.

However, to be able to be in service, we have got to get out of our own way. These are some thoughts on where to start.

Fear is a powerful force. It's not all bad. It helped us survive. It often gets a bad rap. It often gives us signals, but we need to put these signals into CONTEXT and come back to our own agency.

What has helped us survive in the past is often NOT what we need to expand, grow, love, feel alive, be present and dream of the future.

You know that boundaries are important and you have probably heard a lot about them when it comes to relationships. But have you considered how important they are for how you show up in your business and the relationships you cultivate with your community and clients?

There is a difference between money and capitalism. I know that may be hard to believe, especially since there are many more examples of money being tied to exploitation than not. Capitalism muddles money. But money and capitalism are not the same.

I see a lot of digital business owners wanting to have the PERFECT offering and to work in the shadows, and then come out bursting with the new polished project that everyone will love and that no one will be hurt by. But there is no such thing as perfection that will save you from causing harm. If we want to be an embodied leader who leads with their heart and values, we have to build our shame resiliency and learn to be able to show up messy, with care, and use the feedback we get to inform our work and business going forward.

To be an embodied leader who leads with their heart and values – but really to get anything we want out of life – we have run our businesses with and from a place of pleasure. We can get so focused on dismantling systems of oppression that we forget what we would like to build in their place. Pleasure is one way to do that.

To be an embodied leader who leads with their heart and values – but really to get anything we want out of life – we have to address our perfectionism. Which really is just about addressing our shame.

To make a level of commitment like that, to keep yourself going through the guilt of the good and the pain of the hard, you need to be fierce on WHY you want to do this in the first place.

To be an embodied leader who leads with their heart and values – but really to get anything we want out of life – we have to address our perfectionism. Which really is just about addressing our shame.

Notice your part while fighting binary thinking. You are not the most important, but you are important! You are not the only piece in this puzzle, but you are a piece! I won’t tell you right now a specific action to take, because this isn’t a 1, 2, 3 and done checklist. It’s a complete reorientation and lifestyle shift.

If you are somewhere in between, i.e., you want to do something to acknowledge the new year but you are also feeling resistant to opening up to the possibilities (because what's the point after the dumpster fire 2020 has been?), then I have something that might hit the spot.

Sometimes we avoid doing what we want because we have hidden and unconscious fears of our success, our power, and getting what we want. What we want doesn't feel safe.
For example, if you desire to have your own business, the hidden fear may be of needing to develop self-discipline. Or if the desire is wanting to build an instagram following, the hidden fear may be of visibility. Or If the desire is wanting more hot passionate sex, the hidden fear may be of feeling vulnerable and out of control.